The focus of my blog and page is to join hands with those who, like me, want much more understanding about Autism in mainstream narratives.
My hope is that by bringing together current literature, articles, blogs and information that reflect the diversity and breadth within the Autistic population; that we may challenge the many stereotypes that exist about Autism, as well as challenge our own misconceptions and understanding.
The aim is to provide a page that is rich with many and varied narratives about Autism, as well as to shine particular light on the lesser known profile of Autism; PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance).
My main drive in creating this page is as a Mother to a wonderful boy who is a great many things, amongst them he is inspiring, funny, chatty, strong, beautiful, determined, resourceful, creative and Autistic. His form of Autism; PDA, is particularly misunderstood.
As a Mother and as a family our experience of negotiating the complexities of the healthcare system through assessment and diagnosis has been challenging, as has our experience of day to day conversations about Autism.
It is my hope that this page will add to the discourse about PDA in a way that is positive and supportive. I want my son to inherit a world that has a deeper understanding of Autism, without being so saturated by the myths and inaccuarate and unhelpful stereotypes.
Much is being done to raise awareness about Autism by organisations such as The National Autistic Society, The PDA Society, individual charities and individual writers and bloggers, particularly those who are Autistic themselves. But the task is huge. Historical narratives and medical narratives about Autism still largely dominate in a way that is incredibly unhelpful.
When my son was being assessed for Autism, I felt bombarded by medical descriptions such as “disorder”, needing “treatment” and being “impaired”. For me these descriptions just did not describe my son and I experienced them as offensive and hurtful.
I started to actively seek different language, less medical narratives and more embracing ones. I wanted to be able to connect with an understanding of Autism that felt more authentically descriptive of our boy’s amazing gifts as well as his challenges. After all Autism is not something you have, it is not an illness, it is pervasive; it affects every part of a person, the way you experience the world, communicate, think, feel, move and learn.
Narratives are powerful because language is emotive, and the words we use have such a deep impact. My son’s beauty and the way he shines can never be represented by terms such as disorder, developmental disability or neurological condition. And neither can your Autistic son’s beauty, or your daughter’s, grandson’s, granddaughter’s, niece’s or nephew’s.
Every autistic person deserves to live in a world that understands and values neurodiversity. We need to be ready and able to go beyond awareness and actually celebrate every individual. And whilst every autistic individual should be celebrated, their difficulties also need to be understood. Autism is complex and despite the shared characteristics, every autistic person needs to be supported according to their unique set of strengths and difficulties.
A fundamental shift still needs to happen where there is more widespread understanding of the range of difficulties Autistic people face, including those difficulties that can be largely invisible.
I feel I have a responsibility to actively join hands with those already striving to bring about change. It would be amazing to hear more mainstream conversations about Autism that are truly open, respectful and informed.
The process of reading, researching and writing about Autism and PDA has been a really important part of my journey in processing that my son is Autistic and in learning how I can be a better parent to him and his unique set of needs.
Who Am I?
I am a 40 something, full time Mom, remaining anonymous in order to protect my son’s online identity. As well as looking after my boy full time I am also a writer on a mission to share good quality information about Neurodiversity 😊.
I have a BSc Hons degree in Psychology and as a Postgraduate I studied for 3 years to gain my Qualification in Integrative Counselling. I worked between the NHS, Action for Children and Relate over a 10 year + period. I loved my work and I often miss it.
These days though, I am very lucky to be the Mother of an incredible boy who makes every day different, beautiful and challenging; probably in equal measure, as I do all I can to stay relatively sane and be the best Mom I can be.
I passionately believe that by challenging common misconceptions and contributing well versed narratives about Autism and PDA, that change can happen one conversation at a time. I hope you can join me on this journey and follow on Facebook too: